Sometimes my head and heart disagree, well, honestly very often. Through the years, I have learned to trust on my heart, my guts. Experiences have taught me that my heart is very often right and I regretted for not listening to it. I am learning however when I have to listen to my head or heart.
There are moments that I really have to listen to my head, because now and then, it makes sense. Sometimes I have to be more like Spock and think logical and not reacting irrational. For example if I have to make a phone call about something that made me emotional, I have to prepare it very well. By writing down on paper what I want to say, or ask and stick to it. Most of the times it works because I have prepared for it. That way I won’t lose track of it.
I have notices that it getting easier to control my emotions on moments like that. First, I just sit down and let it all sink. Then write down on paper why, what, and maybe even how. That helps me to calm down, because my head is a slow worker, slowly I become more Spock for a moment. When I am calmed down then I read through with my heart what I wrote and what I want to do about it. When they agreed with each other, is time to get in action. Sometimes I need more than a day to get there, but eventually I get there. Sometimes my head and heart keep on arguing. I have to find and learn what works for me, because I am single. I can’t keep asking my wonderful parents for help.
There are also moments that my heart and head totally not see eye to eye. In that case, I might ask people for advice or go with my experiences and choose. As I said above, I have learned to trust on my heart because it is like for 90% right. I forgive my heart for that 10% wrong. Those were the moments I better had listen to my head. O well, no one is perfect! I am a perfectionist and saying that, wow! Sometimes I can surprise myself!